Questions about Marriage
1 Now, to deal with the matters you wrote about.
A man does well not to marry. 2 But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband. 3 A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other's needs. 4 A wife is not the master of her own body, but her husband is; in the same way a husband is not the master of his own body, but his wife is. 5 Do not deny yourselves to each other, unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations. In this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan's temptation because of your lack of self-control.
6 I tell you this not as an order, but simply as a permission. 7 Actually I would prefer that all of you were as I am; but each one has a special gift from God, one person this gift, another one that gift.
8 Now, to the unmarried and to the widows I say that it would be better for you to continue to live alone as I do. 9 But if you cannot restrain your desires, go ahead and marry—it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
10 For married people I have a command which is not my own but the Lord's: a wife must not leave her husband; 11 but if she does, she must remain single or else be reconciled to her husband; and a husband must not divorce his wife.
12 To the others I say (I, myself, not the Lord): if a Christian man has a wife who is an unbeliever and she agrees to go on living with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a Christian woman is married to a man who is an unbeliever and he agrees to go on living with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made acceptable to God by being united to his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made acceptable to God by being united to her Christian husband. If this were not so, their children would be like pagan children; but as it is, they are acceptable to God. 15 However, if the one who is not a believer wishes to leave the Christian partner, let it be so. In such cases the Christian partner, whether husband or wife, is free to act. God has called you to live in peace. 16 How can you be sure, Christian wife, that you will not save your husband? Or how can you be sure, Christian husband, that you will not save your wife?
Live As God Called You
17 Each of you should go on living according to the Lord's gift to you, and as you were when God called you. This is the rule I teach in all the churches. 18 If a circumcised man has accepted God's call, he should not try to remove the marks of circumcision; if an uncircumcised man has accepted God's call, he should not get circumcised. 19 For whether or not a man is circumcised means nothing; what matters is to obey God's commandments. 20 Each of you should remain as you were when you accepted God's call. 21 Were you a slave when God called you? Well, never mind; but if you have a chance to become free, use it. 22 For a slave who has been called by the Lord is the Lord's free person; in the same way a free person who has been called by Christ is his slave. 23 God bought you for a price; so do not become slaves of people. 24 My friends, each of you should remain in fellowship with God in the same condition that you were when you were called.
Questions about the Unmarried and the Widows
25 Now, concerning what you wrote about unmarried people: I do not have a command from the Lord, but I give my opinion as one who by the Lord's mercy is worthy of trust.
26 Considering the present distress, I think it is better for a man to stay as he is. 27 Do you have a wife? Then don't try to get rid of her. Are you unmarried? Then don't look for a wife. 28 But if you do marry, you haven't committed a sin; and if an unmarried woman marries, she hasn't committed a sin. But I would rather spare you the everyday troubles that married people will have.
29 What I mean, my friends, is this: there is not much time left, and from now on married people should live as though they were not married; 30 those who weep, as though they were not sad; those who laugh, as though they were not happy; those who buy, as though they did not own what they bought; 31 those who deal in material goods, as though they were not fully occupied with them. For this world, as it is now, will not last much longer.
32 I would like you to be free from worry. An unmarried man concerns himself with the Lord's work, because he is trying to please the Lord. 33 But a married man concerns himself with worldly matters, because he wants to please his wife; 34 and so he is pulled in two directions. An unmarried woman or a virgin concerns herself with the Lord's work, because she wants to be dedicated both in body and spirit; but a married woman concerns herself with worldly matters, because she wants to please her husband.
35 I am saying this because I want to help you. I am not trying to put restrictions on you. Instead, I want you to do what is right and proper, and to give yourselves completely to the Lord's service without any reservation.
36 In the case of an engaged couple who have decided not to marry: if the man feels that he is not acting properly toward the young woman and if his passions are too strong and he feels that they ought to marry, then they should get married, as he wants to. There is no sin in this. 37 But if a man, without being forced to do so, has firmly made up his mind not to marry, and if he has his will under complete control and has already decided in his own mind what to do—then he does well not to marry the young woman. 38 So the man who marries does well, but the one who doesn't marry does even better.
39 A married woman is not free as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, then she is free to be married to any man she wishes, but only if he is a Christian. 40 She will be happier, however, if she stays as she is. That is my opinion, and I think that I too have God's Spirit.
Réponse aux questions des Corinthiens sur le mariage
V. 1-11: cf. Ge 2:18-25. Mt 19:3-12.
1 Pour ce qui concerne les choses dont vous m’avez écrit, je pense qu’il est bon pour l’homme de ne point toucher de femme. 2 Toutefois, pour éviter l’impudicité, que chacun ait sa femme, et que chaque femme ait son mari. 3 Que le mari rende à sa femme ce qu’il lui doit, et que la femme agisse de même envers son mari. 4 La femme n’a pas autorité sur son propre corps, mais c’est le mari; et pareillement, le mari n’a pas autorité sur son propre corps, mais c’est la femme. 5 Ne vous privez point l’un de l’autre, si ce n’est d’un commun accord pour un temps, afin de vaquer à la prière; puis retournez ensemble, de peur que Satan ne vous tente par votre incontinence. 6 Je dis cela par condescendance, je n’en fais pas un ordre. 7 Je voudrais que tous les hommes fussent comme moi; mais chacun tient de Dieu un don particulier, l’un d’une manière, l’autre d’une autre. 8 A ceux qui ne sont pas mariés et aux veuves, je dis qu’il leur est bon de rester comme moi. 9 Mais s’ils manquent de continence, qu’ils se marient; car il vaut mieux se marier que de brûler. 10 A ceux qui sont mariés, j’ordonne, non pas moi, mais le Seigneur, que la femme ne se sépare point de son mari 11 (si elle est séparée, qu’elle demeure sans se marier ou qu’elle se réconcilie avec son mari), et que le mari ne répudie point sa femme.
V. 12-16: cf. 1 Pi 3:1, 2. (Ge 17:7. Ro 11:16.)
12 Aux autres, ce n’est pas le Seigneur, c’est moi qui dis: Si un frère a une femme non-croyante, et qu’elle consente à habiter avec lui, qu’il ne la répudie point; 13 et si une femme a un mari non-croyant, et qu’il consente à habiter avec elle, qu’elle ne répudie point son mari. 14 Car le mari non-croyant est sanctifié par la femme, et la femme non-croyante est sanctifiée par le frère; autrement, vos enfants seraient impurs, tandis que maintenant ils sont saints. 15 Si le non-croyant se sépare, qu’il se sépare; le frère ou la sœur ne sont pas liés dans ces cas-là. Dieu nous a appelés à vivre en paix. 16 Car que sais-tu, femme, si tu sauveras ton mari? Ou que sais-tu, mari, si tu sauveras ta femme?
V. 17-24: cf. Ph 4:11, Ph 12. Ro 6:18, Ro 22.
17 Seulement, que chacun marche selon la part que le Seigneur lui a faite, selon l’appel qu’il a reçu de Dieu. C’est ainsi que je l’ordonne dans toutes les Églises. 18 Quelqu’un a-t-il été appelé étant circoncis, qu’il demeure circoncis; quelqu’un a-t-il été appelé étant incirconcis, qu’il ne se fasse pas circoncire. 19 La circoncision n’est rien, et l’incirconcision n’est rien, mais l’observation des commandements de Dieu est tout. 20 Que chacun demeure dans l’état où il était lorsqu’il a été appelé. 21 As-tu été appelé étant esclave, ne t’en inquiète pas; mais si tu peux devenir libre, profites-en plutôt. 22 Car l’esclave qui a été appelé dans le Seigneur est un affranchi du Seigneur; de même, l’homme libre qui a été appelé est un esclave de Christ. 23 Vous avez été rachetés à un grand prix; ne devenez pas esclaves des hommes. 24 Que chacun, frères, demeure devant Dieu dans l’état où il était lorsqu’il a été appelé.
V. 25-40: cf. v. 1-11. (1 Pi 4:7. Lu 10:40-42.) Hé 13:4.
25 Pour ce qui est des vierges, je n’ai point d’ordre du Seigneur; mais je donne un avis, comme ayant reçu du Seigneur miséricorde pour être fidèle. 26 Voici donc ce que j’estime bon, à cause des temps difficiles qui s’approchent: il est bon à un homme d’être ainsi. 27 Es-tu lié à une femme, ne cherche pas à rompre ce lien; n’es-tu pas lié à une femme, ne cherche pas une femme. 28 Si tu t’es marié, tu n’as point péché; et si la vierge s’est mariée, elle n’a point péché; mais ces personnes auront des tribulations dans la chair, et je voudrais vous les épargner. 29 Voici ce que je dis, frères, c’est que le temps est court; que désormais ceux qui ont des femmes soient comme n’en ayant pas, 30 ceux qui pleurent comme ne pleurant pas, ceux qui se réjouissent comme ne se réjouissant pas, ceux qui achètent comme ne possédant pas, 31 et ceux qui usent du monde comme n’en usant pas, car la figure de ce monde passe. 32 Or, je voudrais que vous fussiez sans inquiétude. Celui qui n’est pas marié s’inquiète des choses du Seigneur, des moyens de plaire au Seigneur; 33 et celui qui est marié s’inquiète des choses du monde, des moyens de plaire à sa femme. 34 Il y a de même une différence entre la femme et la vierge: celle qui n’est pas mariée s’inquiète des choses du Seigneur, afin d’être sainte de corps et d’esprit; et celle qui est mariée s’inquiète des choses du monde, des moyens de plaire à son mari. 35 Je dis cela dans votre intérêt; ce n’est pas pour vous prendre au piège, c’est pour vous porter à ce qui est bienséant et propre à vous attacher au Seigneur sans distraction. 36 Si quelqu’un regarde comme déshonorant pour sa fille de dépasser l’âge nubile, et comme nécessaire de la marier, qu’il fasse ce qu’il veut, il ne pèche point; qu’on se marie. 37 Mais celui qui a pris une ferme résolution, sans contrainte et avec l’exercice de sa propre volonté, et qui a décidé en son cœur de garder sa fille vierge, celui-là fait bien. 38 Ainsi, celui qui marie sa fille fait bien, et celui qui ne la marie pas fait mieux. 39 Une femme est liée aussi longtemps que son mari est vivant; mais si le mari meurt, elle est libre de se marier à qui elle veut; seulement, que ce soit dans le Seigneur. 40 Elle est plus heureuse, néanmoins, si elle demeure comme elle est, suivant mon avis. Et moi aussi, je crois avoir l’Esprit de Dieu.