Questions about Marriage
1 Now I will answer the questions you asked in your letter. You asked, “Is it best for people not to marry?” 2 Well, having your own husband or wife should keep you from doing something immoral. 3 Husbands and wives should be fair with each other about having sex. 4 A wife belongs to her husband instead of to herself, and a husband belongs to his wife instead of to himself. 5 So don't refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 In my opinion that is what should be done, though I don't know of anything the Lord said about this matter. 7 I wish all of you were like me, but God has given different gifts to each of us.
8 My advice for the unmarried and for widows is that it is acceptable for them to remain single, just as I am. 9 But if you don't have enough self-control, then go ahead and get married. After all, it is better to marry than to burn with desire.
10 I instruct married couples to stay together, and this is exactly what the Lord himself taught. A wife who leaves her husband 11 should either stay single or go back to her husband. And a husband should not leave his wife.
12 I don't know of anything else the Lord said about marriage. All I can do is to give you my own advice. If your wife isn't a follower of the Lord, but is willing to stay with you, don't divorce her. 13 If your husband isn't a follower, but is willing to stay with you, don't divorce him. 14 Your husband or wife who isn't a follower is made holy by having you as a partner. This also makes your children holy and keeps them from being unclean in God's sight.
15 If your husband or wife isn't a follower of the Lord and decides to divorce you, then you should agree to it. You are no longer bound to that person. After all, God chose you and wants you to live at peace. 16 And besides, how do you know if you will be able to save your husband or wife who isn't a follower?
Obeying the Lord at All Times
17 In every church I tell the people to stay as they were when the Lord Jesus chose them and God called them to be his own. Now I say the same thing to you. 18 If you are already circumcised, don't try to change it. If you are not circumcised, don't get circumcised. 19 Being circumcised or uncircumcised isn't really what matters. The important thing is to obey God's commands. 20 So don't try to change what you were when God chose you. 21 Are you a slave? Don't let that bother you. But if you can win your freedom, you should. 22 When the Lord chooses slaves, they become his free people. And when he chooses free people, they become slaves of Christ. 23 God paid a great price for you. So don't become slaves of anyone else. 24 Stay what you were when God chose you.
Unmarried People
25 I don't know of anything the Lord said about people who have never been married. But I will tell you what I think. And you can trust me, because the Lord has treated me with kindness. 26 We are now going through hard times, and I think it is best for you to stay as you are. 27 If you are married, stay married. If you are not married, don't try to get married. 28 It isn't wrong to marry, even if you have never been married before. But those who marry will have a lot of trouble, and I want to protect you from this.
29 My friends, what I mean is that the Lord will soon come, and it won't matter if you are married or not. 30 It will be all the same if you are crying or laughing, or if you are buying or are completely broke. 31 It won't make any difference how much good you are getting from this world or how much you like it. This world as we know it is now passing away.
32 I want all of you to be free from worry. An unmarried man worries about how to please the Lord. 33 But a married man has more worries. He must worry about the things of this world, because he wants to please his wife. 34 So he is pulled in two directions. Unmarried women and women who have never been married worry only about pleasing the Lord, and they keep their bodies and minds pure. But a married woman worries about the things of this world, because she wants to please her husband. 35 What I am saying is for your own good—it isn't to limit your freedom. I want to help you to live right and to love the Lord above all else.
36 But suppose you are engaged to someone old enough to be married, and you want her so much that all you can think about is getting married. Then go ahead and marry. There is nothing wrong with that. 37 But it is better to have self-control and to make up your mind not to marry. 38 It is perfectly all right to marry, but it is better not to get married at all.
39 A wife should stay married to her husband until he dies. Then she is free to marry again, but only to a man who is a follower of the Lord. 40 However, I think I am obeying God's Spirit when I say she would be happier to stay single.
الزواج والبتولية
1 وأمّا مِنْ جِهَةِ ما كَتَبتُم بِه إليّ، فخَيرٌ لِلرّجُلِ أنْ لا يَمَسّ اَمرَأةً. 2 ولكِنْ، خَوفًا مِنَ الزّنى، فلْيكُنْ لِكُلّ رَجُلٍ اَمرأتُهُ ولِكُلّ اَمرأةٍ زَوجُها، 3 وعلى الزّوجِ أنْ يوفيَ اَمرأتَهُ حَقّها، كما على المرأةِ أنْ توفيَ زَوجَها حَقّهُ. 4 لا سُلطَةَ لِلمرأةِ على جَسِدَها، فهوَ لِزَوجِها. وكذلِكَ الزّوجُ لا سُلطَةَ لَه على جَسَدِهِ، فهوَ لاَمرأتِهِ. 5 لا يَمتَنِـعْ أحدُكُما عَنِ الآخَرِ إلاّ على اَتفاقٍ بَينَكما وإلى حينٍ، حتى تتَفَرّغا لِلصّلاةِ. ثُمّ عودا إلى الحياةِ الزّوجِيّةِ العادِيّةِ لِئَلاّ يُعوزَكُم ضَبطُ النّفسِ، فتَقَعوا في تَجرِبَةِ إبليسَ.
6 أقولُ لكُم هذا لا على سَبـيلِ الأمْرِ، بَلْ على سَبـيلِ السّماحِ، 7 فأنا أتَمنّى لَو كانَ جميعُ النّاسِ مِثْلي. ولكِنْ لِكُلّ إنسانٍ هِبَةٌ خَصّهُ اللهُ بِها، فبَعضُهُم هذِهِ وبَعضُهُم تِلكَ.
8 وأقولُ لِغَيرِ المُتَزوّجينَ والأرامِلِ إنّهُ خَيرٌ لهُم أنْ يَبْقَوا مِثْلي. 9 أمّا إذا كانوا غَيرَ قادِرينَ على ضَبطِ النّفسِ، فَليَتزوّجوا. فالزّواجُ أفضَلُ مِنَ التّحَرّقِ بالشّهوَةِ.
10 وأمّا المُتَزوّجونَ فوَصيّتي لهُم، وهيَ مِنَ الرّبّ لا مِنّي، أنْ لا تُفارِقَ المرأةُ زَوجَها، 11 وإنْ فارَقَتْهُ، فلْتَبقَ بِغَيرِ زَوجٍ أو فَلتُصالِـحْ زَوجَها، وعلى الزّوجِ أنْ لا يُطَلّقَ اَمرأتَهُ.
12 وأمّا الآخَرونَ، فأقولُ لهُم أنا لا الرّبّ: إذا كانَ لأخٍ مُؤمنٍ اَمرَأةٌ غَيرُ مُؤمِنَةٍ رَضِيَتْ أنْ تَعيشَ معَهُ، فَلا يُطَلّقْها. 13 وإذا كانَ لاَمرأةٍ مُؤمِنَةٍ زَوجٌ غَيرُ مُؤمِنٍ يَرضى أنْ يَعيشَ مَعَها، فَلا تُطَلّقْهُ. 14 فالزّوجُ غَيرُ المُؤمِنِ يتَقَدّسُ باَمرأتِهِ المُؤمِنَةِ، والمرأةُ غَيرُ المُؤمِنَةِ تتَقَدّسُ بِزَوجِها المُؤمِنِ، وإلاّ كانَ أولادُكُم أنجاسًا، معَ أنّهُم مُقَدّسونَ. 15 وإنْ أرادَ غَيرُ المُؤمِنِ أو غَيرُ المُؤمِنَةِ أنْ يُفارِقَ فليُـفارِقْ، ففي مِثلِ هذِهِ الحالِ لا يكونُ المُؤمِنُ أوِ المُؤمِنَةُ خاضِعَينِ لِرِباطِ الزّواجِ، لأنّ اللهَ دَعاكُم أنْ تَعيشوا بِسَلامٍ. 16 فكَيفَ تَعلَمينَ أيّتُها المرأةُ المُؤمِنَةُ أنّكِ سَتُخَلّصينَ زَوجَكِ؟ وكيفَ تَعلَمُ أيّها الرّجُلُ المُؤمِنُ أنّكَ سَتُخلّصُ زَوجَتَكَ؟
بقاء المؤمن على حاله
17 فلْيَسلُكْ كُلّ واحِدٍ في حَياتِهِ حسَبَ ما قسَمَ لَه الرّبّ وكما كانَت علَيهِ حالُهُ عِندَما دَعاهُ اللهُ، وهذا ما أفرِضُهُ في الكنائِسِ كُلّها. 18 فمَنْ دَعاهُ اللهُ وهوَ مَختونٌ، فَلا يُحاوِل أنْ يَستُرَ خِتانَهُ، ومَنْ دَعاهُ الرّبّ وهوَ غير مَختونٍ، فَلا يَختَتِنْ. 19 لا الخِتانُ لَه مَعنى ولا عَدَمُ الخِتانِ، بَلِ الخَيرُ كُلّ الخَيرِ في العمَلِ بوَصايا اللهِ. 20 فَعَلى كُلّ واحِدٍ أنْ يَبْقى مِثلَما كانَت علَيهِ حالُهُ عِندَما دَعاهُ اللهُ. 21 فإنْ كُنتَ عَبدًا عِندَما دَعاكَ اللهُ فلا تَهتَمّ. ولكِنْ إنْ كانَ بإمكانِكَ أنْ تَصيرَ حُرّا، فالأَولى بِكَ أنْ تَغتَنِمَ الفُرصَةَ. 22 فمَنْ دَعاهُ الرّبّ وهوَ عَبدٌ كانَ لِلرّبّ حُرّا، وكذلِكَ مَنْ دَعاهُ المَسيحُ وهوَ حُرّ كانَ لِلمَسيحِ عَبدًا. 23 واللهُ اَشتَراكُم ودَفَعَ الثّمَنَ، فلا تَصيروا عَبـيدًا لِلنّاسِ. 24 فليَبقَ كُلّ واحِدٍ مِنكُم، أيّها الإخوةُ، أمامَ اللهِ مِثلَما كانَت علَيهِ حالُهُ عِندَما دَعاهُ.
غير المتزوجين والأرامل
25 وأمّا غَيرُ المُتزوّجينَ فَلا وَصِيّةَ لهُم عِندي مِنَ الرّبّ، ولكِنّي أُعطي رَأْيـــي كرَجُلٍ جَعَلَتْه رَحمَةُ الرّبّ مَوضِعَ ثِقَةٍ، 26 فأقولُ إنّهُ مِنَ الخَيرِ، نظَرًا إلى ما في الوَقتِ الحاضِرِ مِنْ ضيقٍ، أنْ يَبقى الإنسانُ على حالِهِ. 27 هَلْ أنتَ مُقتَرِنٌ باَمرأةٍ؟ إذًا، لا تَطْلُبِ الانفِصالَ عَنها. هَل أنتَ غيرُ مُقتَرِنٍ باَمرأةٍ؟ إذًا، لا تَطلُبِ الزّواجَ باَمرأةٍ، 28 وإذا تَزَوّجْتَ فأنتَ لا تُخطِـئُ، ولكِنّ الذينَ يَتَزوّجونَ يَجدِونَ مَشقّةً في هُمومِ الحياةِ، وأنا أُريدُ أن أُبعِدَها عَنكُم.
29 أقولُ لكُم، أيّها الإخوةُ، إنّ الزّمانَ يَقصُرُ. فلْيكُنِ الذينَ لهُم نِساءٌ كأنّ لا نِساءَ لهُم، 30 والذينَ يَبكونَ كأنّهُم لا يَبكونَ، والذينَ يَفرَحونَ كأنّهُم لا يَفرَحونَ، والذينَ يَشتَرونَ كأنّهُم لا يَملِكونَ، 31 والذينَ يَتعاطَوْنَ أُمورَ هذا العالَمِ كأنّهُم لا يَتعاطَوْنَ، لأنّ صورَةَ هذا العالَمِ في زَوالٍ.
32 أُريدُ أن تكونوا مِنْ دُونِ هَمّ. فغَيرُ المُتَزوّجِ يَهتّمُ بأمورِ الرّبّ وكيفَ يُرضي الرّبّ، 33 والمُتَزَوّجُ يَهتَمّ بأمورِ العالَمِ وكيفَ يُرضي اَمرأتَهُ، 34 فهوَ مُنقَسِمٌ. وكذلِكَ العَذراءُ والمرأةُ التي لا زَوجَ لها تَهتَمّانِ بأُمورِ الرّبّ وكيفَ تَنالانِ القَداسَةَ جسَدًا ورُوحًا، وأمّا المُتَزوّجةُ فتَهتَمّ بأُمورِ العالَمِ وكيفَ تُرضي زَوجَها. 35 أقولُ هذا لِخَيرِكُم، لا لأُلقيَ علَيكُم قَيدًا، بَلْ لِتَعمَلوا ما هوَ لائِقٌ وتَخدُموا الرّبّ مِنْ دونِ اَرتِباكٍ.
36 إنْ رأى أحدٌ أنّهُ يُسيءُ إلى فَتاتِهِ إذا مضى الوقتُ وكانَ لا بُدّ مِنَ الزواجِ فليتزوّجا إذا أرادَ فهو لا يُخطئُ. 37 ولكِنْ مَنِ اَقتَنَعَ في قَلبِهِ كُلّ الاقتِناعِ، وكانَ غَيرَ مُضطَرّ، حُرّا في اَختيارِهِ، وعَزَمَ في قَلبِهِ أنْ يَصونَ فَتاتَهُ فحَسَنًا يَفعَلُ. 38 إذًا، مَنْ تَزَوّجَ فَتاتَهُ فعَلَ حَسَنًا، ومَنِ اَمتَنَعَ عَنْ ذلِكَ فعَلَ الأحسَنَ.
39 تَرتَبِطُ المرأةُ بِشَريعةِ الزّواجِ ما دامَ زَوجُها حيّا، فإنْ ماتَ عادَتْ حُرّةً تتزَوّجُ مَنْ تَشاءُ، ولكِنْ زَواجًا في الرّبّ. 40 إلاّ أنّها في رَأْيـــي تكونُ أكثَرَ سَعادَةً إذا بَقِـيَتْ على حالِها، وأَظُنّ رُوح اللهِ فِـيّ أنا أيضًا.
